Positive Mental Attitude

Its been quite sometime since I've been around these parts. I would say I'm sorry, but honestly I'm not sorry and find myself apologizing for things that I'm not really sorry about. Sorry not sorry, you know? I'll just say that I hope to return to blogging more frequently. In the meantime I have been spending oodles of time with my little girl, who is now 6 months old! Crazy, I know. I'm still trying to strike a nice balance between work and home life, and while no one has it figured out yet, I would like to find more me time to...you know...blog, cook, wine taste, exercise, read, watch movies, etc...etc...etc. I've enjoyed weekly-monthly hikes with my family and hanging out in bed on weekends mornings with them.

So what actually brought me here today, or at least motivated me enough to take the time to write this post is something I've been thinking about lately, 

Positive Mental Attitude

. Will and I have conversed on this philosophy a lot and it is something we are striving for. He's been working on it longer than I, but more recently I have wanted to live my life in this way. If you're not familiar, Positive Mental Attitude is a philosophy introduced by Napoleon Hill. It essentially practices that having an optimistic attitude in every situation attracts positive change and successful outcomes.

For me, this way of living is truly a challenge because I am often a cynic and negative -characteristics I'm not proud of. However, I don't want to continue living this way or set this example for my daughter, Colette. There are common misconceptions about PMA (

you can read them here

), mainly that positive things just happen to you simply because you think positively, or that situations end up successful purely from positive thought. This myth is simply not true. The way that I like to think of it is that positive mental attitude enacts change, free-thinking and motivation. Instead of stressing or dwelling on a problem, PMA motivates one to create solutions and take action, sort of what brought me to write this post!

I found


to be some great advice for creating PMA. Instead of focusing on my flaws I have started to think about my attributes that I can capitalize on and changing the things about myself I don't like. Even this step has already lead me to be more successful at my job. Next I plan on applying this to my home life as well.

I believe that Positive Mental Attitude helped me cope through birth labor and create the experience I wanted to have. Keeping a positive and motivated attitude helped me push through the pain and focus on the end result of seeing my daughter. Will tells me how moving it was for him to watch me give birth to our little girl and how I kept saying that "I can't wait to meet her," "I'm going to meet her," in between painful pushes. My doula remarked that this is actually pain with purpose so in a way it is not "pain." This statement in itself is PMA and helped me get through labor as I kept thinking, 

I have a purpose. I can get through this. I will get to meet my daughter.

I challenge you to start having a Positive Mental Attitude. You will find it quite empowering and freeing. Remember that you can be the change in your life and in the world around you.

Friday Faves

Sacramento River, Castle Crags State Park. Photo from our honeymoon last Fall.

Wahoo! It's Friday! (even though I am working an event tomorrow, so technically not my Friday) Here are my Faves from this week:

This illustration by Emily McDowell of "What's Really In Your Bag?" on A Cup of Jo.

7 Wonders of Oregon. Love these promo videos from Travel Oregon. I'm embarrassed to say that I've lived in Oregon for over ten years and have only visited 3 of the 7. Looks like I have some exploring to do.

Wanting to make several dishes from this round up of Caper friendly dishes. Especially the radicchio salad. I love capers, however I know they're not everyone's cup of tea.

Savannah over at Maiedae actually wrote this post on Postpartum Must-Haves for Mommies a couple weeks ago, but I'm just getting around to sharing it now. I'm saving this valuable information away for when we have our little one this summer. Postpartum isn't easy.

Li Hongbo: Statues in Motion from Todd Martin on Vimeo.

This amazing installation by paper sculpture artist, Li Hongbo, of busts. It's currently on exhibit at Klein Sun Gallery in Manhattan.

Personal Faves

Feeling Little Lady Laubernds more this week.

She's been crazy active, in fact on Tuesday she was moving and kicking non-stop. It's really a joy to feel her moving in my belly.

Taking my first prenatal swim class.

I've been pretty good about keeping up with an exercise routine while pregnant. However, lately my routine is starting to take a toll on my body. I feel it especially in my hips and knees at night. The swim class was a good workout, but gentle enough that body felt good the night and day that followed.

Returning to my blog.

Rather, I should say returning to my writing and blog. It is such a welcomed return after this long absence and I am pretty proud to start it back up. I just need to be realistic about my limitations. Will is good at reminding me that keeping up my blog is not all or nothing.

Recipe: Who Doesn't Love a Good Mocktail?

Who doesn't love a good mocktail? We all know cocktails can be fun, but so can mocktails just by using the same principles as if there were booze in it. I love making drinks and having them when I go out. I was a little disappointed when I became pregnant and asked for a mocktail at a few restaurants and received a puzzled look, or the response that "we have soda" or "we have lemonade". One server actually responded by telling me they had Camomile tea! That one actually ticked Will off the most. At home I've been having fun experimenting with various syrups and drinking vinegars. I recommend on stocking up on syrups, drinking vinegars/shrubs, or cordials. I used Som drinking vinegars by Pok Pok, as well as Rhubarb syrup by Morris Kitchen for this post. Both of these are readily available in stores or online. Better yet, if you have the time, I recommend making your own. You can find recipes online, as well as the book, Making Wines, by Beshile Grimes.

The three recipes you will find in this post are for Strawberry Rhubarb Shrub, Thai Basil Shrub, and Pineapple and Mint Shrub. Basic tools you will need are a shot glass, bar spoon ( a normal spoon will work if you don't have this), muddler (or handle of a wooden spoon), highball glass and straw for serving.

Strawberry Rhubarb Shrub

serves 1

  • 2 strawberries, plus one for garnish
  • 1 oz rhubarb syrup
  • ice
  • soda water

Begin by chopping up the strawberries, then add to a highball glass and lightly muddle to release juice. Add rhubarb syrup, then top with ice and soda water. Swizzle all the ingredients till well incorporated. Garnish with strawberry and enjoy!

Thai Basil Shrub

serves 1

Begin by adding torn basil to a highball glass and lightly muddle basil to release oils. Add drinking vinegar and lime juice and top with ice and soda water. Swizzle all the ingredients until well incorporated. Garnish with basil sprig and enjoy!

Pineapple and Mint Shrub 

serves 1

Begin by adding torn mint leaves to a highball glass and lightly muddle mint to release oils. Add drinking vinegar and lime juice and top with ice and soda water. Swizzle all the ingredients until well incorporated. Garnish with mint sprig and enjoy!

A Long Overdue Return

Hello! I have returned from my sudden and never-ending (what seemed like) sabbatical. I apologize for the nearly year and a half return, but unfortunately life got in the way of my blog. To be honest, I am a horrible procrastinator that struggles with the whole work/life balance thing. Sometimes, I find that when I come home from work I tend to retreat into myself and take to lazy habits instead of taking time for my hobbies. A lot has happened in that time and I finally feel at the place in my life where I have the drive to return to my writing whole-heartedly. I don't want to make empty promises of scheduled posts and regular content. The only thing I can say is that I hope to share my life with you as often as I can and within my own limits. 

Before I dive into all the changes that have happened in my life during my absence, I want to tell you a few changes around Fork and Vine. You will find that my domain name has since changed tokatelaubernds.com to make it easier for those trying to find my blog, as well as to better brand myself. Fork and Vine will continue to be the fun loving lifestyle blog that you remember, full of posts on my life and family in Portland, food and drink recipes, wine posts, and general interests. Please find links to all my Social sites on the right hand navigation bar to connect with me elsewhere.

Where do I even begin? How do I dumb down all my life changes in nearly 2 years to a summary, without sounding contrite? Well, I can't. However, in the weeks to follow I plan to bring you individual posts that highlight these milestones in their own special posts.

By far one of the most significant change that has happened is that I married my best friend and greatest love, Will. It was a whirlwind and incredible day. We had an intimate wedding surrounded by 90 of our closest friends and family. I look forward to sharing a sincere post with you soon. For now, enjoy this pic from our first look together:

2013 also treated us to the opportunity of becoming home owners. Will and I are now proud homeowners of a cute ranch house in SW Portland. Our home feels like a little cabin in the woods. I wake up everyday thankful we have a cozy home to call our own. In the Spring/Summer I like to enjoy a good lounge on our back deck. Doesn't it look like a forest back there?

For our honeymoon, Will and I took a road trip down to California. We spent most of our time in the Northern Redwoods, camping, hiking and biking. We also spent a few days in Santa Rosa and toured wine country through Sebastapol and Healdsburg. On our way home, we camped near Shasta at Castle Crag State Park. By far, my favorite (and I think Will's too) was the time we spent in the Redwoods. It was beautiful, peaceful and exactly what we needed post wedding craziness.

In late Summer, my sister, Sarah, moved to Portland to attend college. I'm so happy to have my sis here and feel blessed that both my siblings live in the same city as me. She is quite busy with school, but it's nice to take the time to attend soccer games with her, or grab lunch or dinner and chat. I'm so proud of her accomplishments and cannot wait to share more of our time together on the blog. 

Lastly, the most welcomed and significant change is that Will and I are happy to announce that we are pregnant and will be welcoming a little girl into our lives in July 2014. We are overwhelmed with joy and cannot wait to meet this special little person.

I appreciate your continued readership and look forward to getting back in the blogging game. Stay tuned for more posts in the coming weeks and moving forward. Cheers!